Is not gold.
My dad always told me this phrase growing up.
This warning came to mind again as I read fellow blogger Allison Jones‘ story about being a true “Basketball wife”.
She attained the dream of many girls and women — marrying a professional athlete with all the perks and attention that goes hand in hand with this lifestyle. However, she cautions that you have to marry for the right reasons, because like any relationship, there are ups and downs. She and her husband have weathered the storm because their relationship is based on true love and friendship.
The path to maturity tells you that money does not solve everything (and can create more problems!). A marriage is not something to be entered into lightly. Being a wife, as I have learned, requires love, understanding, patience and compromise. Being a baller’s wife comes with its own set of challenges that are not easily conquered if one is focused on attaining money, status or fame. If you’re not sure, check out any “Real Housewives” episode as a point of scary reference.
As women, we should be focused on finding that loving, healthy relationship, while building our own path to success.
As a society, we must encourage our girls to do the same!
Please share your thoughts as always.
A few months ago, as I sat alone in a three-bedroom apartment in Cantù, Italy, a small town outside of Milan, I scrolled through my Instagram requests. Something stood out to me that I’ll never forget. A young girl, who looked about 14 years old, requested to follow me. I often get requests from teenage girls because, let’s be honest, those are the only people who still watch My Super Sweet 16 reruns on MTV and come across the almost decade old episode featuring my 16th birthday party. Usually, I approve as long as the page doesn’t look creepy and go about my business, but as I read the young lady’s bio, I stopped. It read: this school, that city, emoji, emoji, whoever’s bestie, “future basketball wifey.” When I read the last three words months ago, I couldn’t help but wonder who in their right mind would purposely seek out this lifestyle and as I think about it now, I wonder the same thing.
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